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On Surviving Despair: a Primer’s Guide
I read this essay by the movie reviewer Film Crit Hulk (it’s interesting, but it is also super, super long, so fair warning), and I thought, oh, I should blog about despair. Because it seems to be...
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The Breakup Expert
In the wake of my most recent breakup (last Sunday night, woo!) I realized I have a lot of experience with breakups. In fact, I could put up a website proclaiming myself a breakup expert and not feel...
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What is Self-Respect?
What does it mean to respect yourself? That is a question one of my friends asked on my last post, and I’ve been thinking about possible answers ever since. I’ve gotten to the point where I have a good...
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The Graveyard of Words
There are so many words I have not said. There is a graveyard of words I store somewhere in the space that encompasses me, buried several corpses deep. Words I couldn’t say. Words I should have said...
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Actually, This is Very Silly
Last year at this time, I was feeling uncomfortable about my age. Am I 5 or 50? Hmm…. One reason I was feeling uncomfortable about my age was that I was dating someone who was some years younger than...
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On Saying “Enough”
I used to never say “Enough.” I’d bend over backwards to avoid saying “Enough.” I didn’t know what would happen if I ever did, and I was afraid to find out. Coming from a background in which I was...
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Throwing the Mask out with the Trash
I care very deeply about documenting the process of change. Whenever I think about change, I think about the montage scene. Actually, I think of one specific montage scene: the one in Dirty Dancing...
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How to be Your Own Best Friend
I feel very protective of my close friends. I forget this is true until one of them tells me a story of some awful thing someone else has done to them. And I don’t even have to think about it. I want...
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The most important relationship in my life is with myself
I know a lot of people who don’t have much self-esteem. I used to be one of them, in fact. Having low self-esteem can be a self-perpetuating cycle. You feel bad about yourself, and so you look outside...
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On Cons and Pressure and Caring Less
Before this last weekend, I hadn’t attended a convention in a year. And the last convention I attended was somewhat memorable. Before I left for ConFusion last week, I told myself I had to take it...
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